The Surprising Reason Why Life Feels Less Intense

It’s a beautiful Saturday morning. The sun is shining, birds are chirping, and there’s a hint of freshness in the air. Yet, something feels… different. Life seems quieter, maybe even a bit muted. It’s as if someone turned down the volume on life’s intensity dial. Sounds familiar? Let’s dive into this curious phenomenon that most of us experience but seldom understand.

Shifting Gears with Time

Back when we were kids, remember the anticipation of waiting for a holiday or birthday? It felt like a lifetime. Fast forward to adulthood, and the years seem to roll by with increasing momentum. Why is that? It’s all about perception. When we’re five, a year is 20% of our life. At thirty, it’s just a little over 3%. Essentially, as we age, each year becomes a smaller fraction of our life experience, which can lead to the feeling that time is “speeding up.”

Enter: The Novelty Factor

Our brains love novelty. Every time we encounter something new, our brain lays down dense memories, making time feel expansive. Think of the first time you traveled abroad or tried an exotic dish. Every sensation was heightened, and those days felt prolonged. As we settle into routines, fewer novel experiences come our way, making days blur into one another. Without the richness of varied experiences, life can start to feel less intense.

Evolving Priorities

As we mature, priorities shift. While once we may have thrived on adrenaline-charged experiences, we might now find joy in more tranquil activities – a deep conversation, a tranquil walk, or simply enjoying a cup of tea. This evolution can contribute to a sense of life mellowing down.

Creating Depth Over Breadth

The beauty is, life’s intensity isn’t really diminishing. Instead, it’s deepening. Depth offers a different kind of richness – one where we savor experiences more profoundly, develop deeper connections, and introspect more.

Turning Up the Volume Again

If you’re missing that zest or intensity, remember you hold the remote. Here’s what you can do:

Seek Novelty: Occasionally, break your routine. Take a different route to work, learn a new hobby, or simply rearrange your living space.
Stay Present: Mindfulness practices, like meditation, can help anchor us to the present moment. This can infuse even mundane activities with a sense of wonder and intensity.
Reconnect: Often, life’s most intense moments are when we’re deeply connected with others. Revive an old friendship or cultivate new ones.

A Thought to Part With

While the fast-paced intensity of youth has its charm, the deeper, reflective intensity of later years brings wisdom, connection, and depth. Both are valuable. So, the next time you feel life is a tad less intense, remember: it’s not a sign of life passing you by, but of you evolving with it. And if you ever need a listening ear or some guidance navigating these shifts, we’re here for you, ready to journey with you through life’s beautiful ebbs and flows.