Blossom Team, Author at Blossom Counseling

How to Use Affirmations to Cultivate Self-Love (Even If They Feel Weird at First)

Affirmations have a bit of a reputation. Maybe you’ve seen those overly cheerful morning routine videos where someone stares into a mirror, declaring, “I am powerful! I am unstoppable!”—and you’ve thought, Yeah, okay, but I don’t feel that way. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. A lot of people struggle with affirmations, especially when […]

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Affirmations, Compassion, How To

7 Things Secure People Do Differently in Relationships (and Why It Matters)

Have you ever met someone who just gets relationships? They don’t overthink every text message, they don’t panic when their partner needs space, and they don’t seem to get caught in the same emotional loops that others do. These people aren’t perfect, but they do have one thing in common: secure attachment.Securely attached people experience

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Couples, Relationships

Why Offering Reassurance Feels Impossible for Avoidant Attachment Styles

We all crave a little reassurance now and then. A quick “I love you,” a text that says, “Thinking about you,” or even a simple nod when we’re venting about our day—these tiny moments can be grounding and affirming. But if you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who leans avoidant, you might have

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Attachment, Emotions, Family, Relationships

How to Use Your Love Language for Better Self-Care

We often think of love languages in the context of relationships—how we express love to partners, friends, and family. But what if we flipped the script and used our love language to take better care of ourselves? Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and scented candles (though those can be great!); it’s about understanding what makes

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Couples, Family, Five Love Languages, How To, Personal Development, Relationships

7 Grounding Techniques to Help You Stay Present When You Dissociate

Dissociation can feel like slipping out of reality—like you’re floating outside your body, detached from your surroundings, or watching your life like a movie. It’s a protective mechanism, often linked to trauma, anxiety, or extreme stress. Your brain essentially hits the “eject” button when things feel overwhelming.While dissociation can serve a purpose in the moment,

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Dissociation, Guides, Mental Health, Tips

When Love Turns Toxic: The Bait-and-Switch of an Emotionally Abusive Partner

Picture this: You meet someone who seems perfect. They’re charming, attentive, and say all the right things. Maybe they shower you with compliments, text you good morning and good night, and make you feel like the center of their universe. It feels like a whirlwind romance—the kind you see in movies. But then, slowly, something

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Attachment, Boundaries, College/Students, Couples, Emotions, Fear, Gaslighting, Relationships, Trauma

Fighting Dirty in Relationships: What It Is and Why It Matters

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. In fact, disagreements can strengthen connections when handled with respect and understanding. But sometimes, fights escalate into something far less productive—what’s often referred to as “fighting dirty.” Recognizing the signs of dirty fighting is crucial for maintaining a healthy, loving relationship and avoiding long-term emotional damage. What

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Communication, Family, Relationships

How to Recognize Emotional Unavailability in Relationships

Emotional unavailability is one of those relationship roadblocks that can leave you feeling frustrated, unseen, and exhausted. Maybe you’ve been in a dynamic where you keep trying to get closer, only to hit an invisible wall. Or perhaps someone in your life gives mixed signals—warm one moment, distant the next. Whatever the case, emotional unavailability

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Couples, Emotions, Family, How To, Parenting, Relationships

Daily Habits to Naturally Ease Anxiety and Find Your Calm

Anxiety can feel like an unwelcome passenger in your daily life, popping up uninvited and throwing off your balance. While it’s important to seek professional help when anxiety feels overwhelming, there are small, intentional habits you can weave into your day to reduce its intensity naturally. Think of these as building blocks for a calmer

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Anxiety, Coping Skills, Resilience, Stress

Practical Ways to Self-Soothe When Life Feels Overwhelming

Some days feel like they come straight out of a stormy weather forecast—cloudy, unpredictable, and a little too intense for comfort. Maybe it’s a work deadline that spiraled out of control, a difficult conversation you can’t stop replaying, or just an accumulation of life’s everyday stressors. Whatever the reason, finding ways to self-soothe can turn

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Challenges, Coping Skills, Emotions, Sensory, Stress, Tips

Understanding Why You Accept Poor Treatment and How to Break the Cycle

Ever find yourself replaying moments in your head where you accepted something that didn’t feel right? Maybe it was a dismissive comment, an unkind action, or even being taken for granted. It’s frustrating to think about, but understanding why we tolerate poor treatment is the first step toward changing the narrative. There are plenty of

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Attachment, Boundaries, How To, Personal Development

Finding Your Wise Mind in a Crisis: A DBT Skill for Staying Grounded

When life throws us into crisis mode, our emotions can feel like a tidal wave—overwhelming, chaotic, and all-consuming. In moments like these, making decisions can feel impossible. Do we react with pure emotion, letting anger or panic take the wheel? Or do we try to shut it all down, pushing our feelings away and acting

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Coping Skills, DBT, How To

Why Your Brain Loves 3AM Anxiety (And How to Stop the Spiral)

It’s 3AM. The world is quiet, your bed is warm, and logically, you know you need to sleep. But your brain has other plans. Suddenly, it’s a highlight reel of every awkward moment from the past decade, every unfinished task, every “what if” scenario that has never crossed your mind—until now. If this sounds familiar,

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Anxiety, How To, Tips

How Body Doubling Can Help ADHD Brains Stay on Task

If you have ADHD, you’ve probably had this experience: You sit down to do something important—maybe answering emails, cleaning your space, or working on a project—but somehow, your brain refuses to cooperate. Suddenly, everything else feels more interesting. That snack in the fridge? Needs your attention. That random Wikipedia rabbit hole? Can’t wait. Before you

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ADHD, Coping Skills

What Is Derealization? Understanding the Surreal Feeling of Disconnection

Have you ever looked around and felt like the world wasn’t real? Like you were in a dream, watching life happen but not quite part of it? Maybe colors seem off, sounds feel distant, or everything looks like a hazy movie scene. If any of this sounds familiar, you might have experienced derealization—a strange but

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Attachment, Connection, Dissociation